BOOK RECOMMENDATIONS FROM AROUND THE ISLAND

General Parenting

Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child by John Gottman, Ph.D. et al.

A General Theory of Love By Thomas Lewis, Fari Amini and Richard Lannon This is a wonderfully written book about what we know of the neurochemistry of love written by three psychiatrists

The Five Love Languages of Children by Gary Chapman

Parenting Well in a Media Age: Keeping Our Kids Human By Gloria DeGaetano

Parenting: Boys

Raising Boys: Why Boys Are Different and How to Help Them Become Happy and Well-Balanced Men By Steve Biddulph

Raising Cain: Protecting the Emotional Life of Boys by Dan Kindlon, Ph.D. and Michael Thompson, Ph.D.

Parenting: Girls

Don’t Stop Loving Me: a Reassuring Guide for Mothers of Adolescent Daughters by Ann F. Caron, Ed.D

Parenting: Adolescents

Yes, Your Teenage Is Crazy: Loving Your Kid without Losing Your Mind By Michael Bradley and Jay Giedd

And to be perfectly fair, there is the excellent companion book:

Yes, Your Parents Are Crazy: a Teen Survival Handbook By Michael Bradley

The Seven Year Stretch: How Families Work Together to Grow Through Adolesence by Laura Kastner and Jennifer Wyatt

Parenting From the Inside Out by Daniel Siegal and Mary Hartzell

Everything You Never Wanted Your Kids to Know About Sex (But Were Afraid They’d Ask: The Secrets to Surviving Your Child’s Sexual Development from Birth to the Teens By Justin Richardson and Mark A. Schuster

The Teen Health Book: a Parent’s Guide to Adolescent Health and Well-Being by Ralph Lopez

Raising a Teenager: Parents and the Nurturing of a Responsible Teen by Jeanne Elium and Don Elium

Adolescence: the Survival Guide for Parents and Teachers by Elizabeth Fenwick and Tony Smith

Teen Proofing: a Revolutionary Approach to Fostering Responsible Decision Making in Your Teenager by John Rosemond

Helping Your Struggling Teenager: a Parenting Handbook on Thirty Six Common Problems by Les Parrott III

Drug and Alcohol and Risky Behavior

Our Drink: Detoxing the Perfect Family by Chris and Toren Volkmann A very compelling story of one young person’s long struggle back from secret addiction, written in the words of the parent and kid.

Don’t Let Your Kids Kill You: a Guide for Parents of Drug and Alcohol Addicted Children by Charles Rubin.

How to Keep Your Teenager Out of Trouble and What to Do If You Can’t by Neil I. Bernstein

Just Say Know: Talking with Kids about Drug and Alcohol by Cynthia Kuhn and others

Good Parents for Hard Times: Raising Responsible Kids in the Age of Drug Use and Early Sexual Activity Joanne Koch and Nancy Freeman

Saying No Is Not Enough: Helping Your Kids Make Wise Decisions about Alcohol, Tobacco, and Other Drugs by Robert Schwebel

Parenting 911: How to Safegurard and Rescue Your 10-15 Year Old from Substance Abuse, Depression, Sexual Encounters, Violence, Failure in School, Danger on the Internet, and Other Risky Situations by Charlene Giannetti and Margaret Sagarese

Parenting: Senior Year Transition

The Launching Years:Strategies for Parenting from Senior Year to College Life by Laura Kastner, Ph.D. and Jennifer Wyatt. A wonderful guide for navigating the tricky waters of parent anxiety, your child’s autonomy, and the exciting year ahead. Must read!

Letting Go: a Parent’s Guide to Understanding the College Years, Fourth Edition by Karen Levin Coburn and Madge Lawrence Treeger This is great summer reading for those of us getting our kids off to college with a sense of humor and good suggestions.

School, Education, and Learning

Doing School: How We Are Creating a Generation of Stressed Out, Materialistic and Miseducated Students by Denise Pope

In Schools We Trust: Creating Communities of Learning in an Era of Testing and Standardization by Deborah Meier

Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual, Transgender, and Questioning (GLBTQ)

The Journey Out: A Guide For and About Lesbian, Gay, and Bisexual Teens 305.235 Pollack

Understanding Sexual Identity: A Book for Gay Teens and Their Friends 306.766Rench

Underground Guide to Teenage Sexuality: An Essential Handbook 613.9071 Basso

GLBTQ : the Survival Guide for Queer & Questioning Teens Huegel, Kelly

Gay & Lesbian Rights : a Guide for GLBT Singles, Couples, and Families Sember, Brette McWhorter

True Selves : Understanding Transsexualism--for Families, Friends, Coworkers, and Helping Professionals Brown, Mildred L.

Making Girls into Women : American Women's Writing and the Rise of Lesbian Identity Kent, Kathryn R., 1966-

I KNOW WHY THE CAGED BIRD SINGS Maya Angelou

THE CODE: THE FIVE SECRETS OF TEEN SUCCESS Mawi Asgedom

HOW TO KEEP YOUR TEENAGER OUT OF TROUBLE AND WHAT TO DO IF YOU CAN’T Neil I Bernstein, Ph.D. (KRL)

APHRODITE’S DAUGHTERS: WOMEN’S SEXUAL STORIES AND THE JOURNEY OF THE SOUL Jalaja Bonheim

IT’S EASIER THAN YOU THINK: THE BUDDHIST WAY TO HAPPINESS Sylvia Boorstein

YES, YOUR TEEN IS CRAZY: LOVING YOUR KID WITHOUT LOSING YOUR MIND Michael Bradley

DON’T STOP LOVING ME: A REASSURING GUIDE FOR MOTHERS OF ADOLESCENT DAUGHTERS Ann F. Caron, Ed.D

THE FIVE LOVE LANGUAGES FOR TEENAGERS Gary Chapman

GROWING UP AGAIN: PARENTING OURSELVES AND PARENTING OUR CHILDREN (2nd Ed.) Joan Illsley Clark and Connie Dawson 1998 5/11

LETTING GO: A PARENT’S GUIDE TO UNDERSTANDING THE COLLEGE YEARS Karen Levin Coburn and Madge Lawrence Traeger 2003 5/14 Senior Transition

THE ALCHEMIST Paulo Coelho

I’M NOT MAD, I JUST HATE YOU: A NEW UNDERSTANDING OF MOTHER-DAUGHTER CONFLICT: SURVIVING AND THRIVING YOUR DAUGHTER’S TEENAGE YEARS Roni Cohen-Sandler, Ph.D. and Michelle Silver

STRESSED-OUT GIRLS: HELPING THEM THRIVE IN THE AGE OF PRESSURE Roni Cohen-Sandler, Ph.D.

I WANNA BE SEDATED: 30 WRITERS ON PARENTING TEENAGERS Faith Conlon and Gail Hudson (Eds.)

2005 5/7

STICKS AND STONES: 7 WAYS YOUR CHILD CAN DEAL WITH TEASING, CONFLICT, AND OTHER HARD TIMES Scott Cooper 2000 5/7

SAVING BEAUTY FROM THE BEAST: HOT TO PROTECT YOUR DAUGHTER FROM AN UNHEALTHY RELATIONSHIP Vicki Crompton and Ellen Zelda Kessner (KRL)

GIRLS WILL BE GIRLS: RAISING CONFIDENT AND COURAGEOUS DAUGHTERS JoAnn Deak Ph.D. with Teresa Barker

PROTECTING THE GIFT: KEEPING CHILDREN AND TEENAGERS SAFE (AND PARENTS SANE) Gavin De Becker

PARENTING WELL IN A MEDIA AGE Gloria DeGaetano

2004

TAKE BACK YOUR TIME John De Graaf (EHB)

THE WRONG WAY HOME: UNCOVERING THE PATTERNS OF CULT BEHAVIOR IN AMERICAN SOCIETY Arthur Deikman MD

PARENTING TEENAGERS: SYSTEMATIC TRAINING FOR EFFECTIVE PARENTING OF TEENS (STEP) Don Dinkmeyer, Gary McKay, et al

CHILDREN: THE CHALLENGE Rudolf Driekers

WHAT DO YOU WANT FOR YOUR CHILDREN Wayne Dyer

ALL THE SHE CAN BE: HELPING YOUR DAUGHTER MAINTAIN HER SELF ESTEEM DURING THE CRITICAL YEARS OF ADOLESCENCE Carol Eagle

RAISING A TEENAGER: PARENTS AND THE NURTURING OF A RESPONSIBLE TEEN Jeanne Elium and Don Elium (KRL)

3 STEPS TO STRONG FAMILIES Richard and Lin Eyre

HOW TO TALK SO KIDS WILL LISTEN, HOW TO LISTEN SO KIDS WILL TALK Adele Faber

HOW TO TALK SO TEENS WILL LISTEN, AND LISTEN SO TEENS WILL TALK Adele Faber. 2005 (KRL)

SIBLINGS WITHOUT RIVALRY Adele Faber

THE FINE ART OF SMALL TALK Debra Fine

101 WAYS TO BE A TERRIFIC SPORTS PARENT Dr. Joel Fish (EHB)

BETWEEN MOTHER & DAUGHTER: A TEENAGER AND HER MOM SHARE THE SECRETS OF A STRONG RELATIONSHIP Judith Ford and Amanda Ford

A MILLION LITTLE PIECES James Frey 2003

PARENTING 911: HOW TO SAFEGUARD AND RESCUE YOUR 10 – TO 15-YEAR OLD FROM SUBSTANCE ABUSE, DEPRESSION, SEXUAL ENCOUNTERS, VIOLENCE, FAILURE IN SCHOOL

DANGER ON THE INTERNET, AND OTHER RISKY SITUATIONS Charlene Giannetti and Margaret Sagarese (KRL)

BETWEEN PARENT AND TEENAGER Hiam Ginott

7 STRATEGIES FOR DEVELOPING CAPABLE STUDENTS:REPONSIBLE, RESPECTFUL, AND RESOURCEFUL H. Stephan Glenn and Michael L. Brock 1998

RAISING AN EMOTIONALLY INTELLIGENT CHILD John Gottman, Ph. D.

THE WONDER OF BOYS Michael Gurian 1997

THE WONDER OF GIRLS Michael Gurian

A FINE YOUNG MAN Michael Gurian

NO MORE PUSH PARENTING: HOW TO FIND SUCCESS AND BALANCE IN A HYPERCOMPETITIVE WORLD Elizabeth Guthrie and Kathy Matthews

DRIVEN TO DISTRACTION Hallowell

TRIBE APART: A JOURNEY INTO THE HEART OF AMERICAN ADOLESCENCE Patricia Hersch

LISTENING WITH THE HEART Hwoschovsky

UNQUIET MIND Kay Redfield Jameson

NIGHT FALLS FAST Kay Redfield Jameson

THE LAUNCHING YEARS: STRATEGIES FOR PARENTING FROM SENIOR YEAR TO COLLEGE LIFE Laura Kastner, Ph.D.

Senior transition

THE SEVEN YEAR STRETCH: HOW FAMILIES WORK TOGETHER TO GROW THROUGH ADOLESCENCE Laura Kastner, Ph.D. and Jennifer Wyatt

TEENS UNDER THE INFLUENCE: THE TRUTH ABOUT KIDS, ALCOHOL AND OTHER DRUGS, HOW TO RECOGNIZE THE PROBLEM AND WHAT TO DO ABOUT IT. Katherine Ketchum

RAISING CAIN: PROTECTING THE EMOTIONAL LIFE OF BOYS Dan Kindlon and Michael Thompson, Ph.D.

DISCOVERING THE BODIES SECRETS Mirka Kiraster

PUT YOUR HEART ON PAPER Henriette Ann Klausen

GOOD PARENTS FOR HARD TIMES: RAISING RESPONSIBLE KIDS IN THE AGE OF DRUG USE AND EARLY SEXUAL ACTIVITY Joanne Koch and Nancy Freeman (KRL)

MORE THAN MOODY: RECOGNIZING AND TREATING ADOLESCENT DEPRESSION Harold Koplewicz, MD

ENCOURAGING THE HEART Kouses and Posner

JUST SAY KNOW: TALKING WITH KIDS ABOUT DRUGS AND ALCOHOL Cynthia Kuhn and Others (KRL)

ADOLESCENCE ISN’T TERMINAL Kevin Leman (EHB)

A MIND AT A TIME Mel Levine

THE TEENAGE LIBERATION HANDBOOK: HOW TO QUIT SCHOOL AND GET A REAL LIFE Llewellyn

THE TEEN HEALTH BOOK: A PARENT’S GUIDE TO ADOLESCENT HEALTH AND WELL-BEING Ralph Lopez (KRL) 2002

COMING BACK TO LIFE Johanna Macy

WHAT IT TAKES TO PULL ME THROUGH: WHY TEENAGERS GET IN TROUBLE AND HOW FOUR OF THEM GOT OUT David Marcus

THE SMART PARENTING REVOLUTION: A POWERFUL NEW APPROACH TO UNLEASHING YOUR CHILD’S POTENTIAL Dawna Markova

BETWIXT AND BETWEEN Mahdi, Foster, and Little (Eds)

MUTANT MESSAGE DOWN UNDER Marlo Morgan

ADOLESCENT DEPRESSION: A GUIDE FOR PARENTS Francis Mark Mondimore, MD

THE ACCIDENTAL BUDDHIST: MINDFULNESS, ENLIGHTENMENT, AND SITTING STILL AMERICAN STYLE Dinty W. Moore

CONSCIOUS DREAMING Robert Moss

POSITIVE DISCIPLINE FOR TEENS: EMPOWERING YOUR TEENS AND YOURSELF THROUGH KIND AND FIRM PARENTING Jane Nelsen Ed.D

RAISING SELF RELIANT CHILDREN IN A SELF INDULGENT WORLD Jane Nelsen Ed.D and H. Stephan Glenn, Ph.D

LOVE AND SURVIVAL: THE SCIENTIFIC BASIS FOR THE HEALING POWER OF INTIMACY Dean Ornish, MD

1998 Parent self care

HELPING YOUR STRUGGLING TEENAGER: A PARENTING HANDBOOK ON THIRTY-SIX COMMON PROBLEMS Les Parrott III (KRL)

MAGICAL CHILD and FROM MAGICAL CHILD TO MAGICAL TEEN Pearce

AWAKENING THE HERO’S WITHIN Carol Pearson

NOT MUCH, JUST CHILLIN’ Linda Perlstein

REVIVING OPHELIA Mary Pipher

THE SHELTER OF EACH OTHER Mary Pipher

REAL BOY’S VOICES Pollack

THE BOTANY OF DESIRE Michael Pollan

THE SEX LIVES OF TEENAGERS: REVEALING THE SECRET WORLD OF ADOLESCENT BOYS AND GIRLS Lynn Ponton M.D.

LOOKING BEYOND THE IVY LEAGUE: FINDING A COLLEGE THAT’S RIGHT FOR YOU Loren Pope

KITCHEN TABLE WISDOM Rachel Naomi Remen

EVERYTHING YOU NEVER WANTED YOU KIDS TO KNOW ABOUT SEX (BUT WERE AFRAID THEY’D ASK): THE SECRETS TO SURVIVING YOUR CHILD’S SEXUAL DEVELOPMENT FROM BIRTH TO TEENS Justin Richardson and Mark A. Schuster (KRL)

STAYING CONNECTED TO YOU TEENAGER: HOW TO KEEP THEM TALKING TO YOU AND HOW TO HEAR WHAT THEY’RE REALLY SAYING Michael Riera (KRL)

TEEN-PROOFING: A REVOLUTIONARY APPROACH TO FOSTERING RESPONSIBLE DECISION MAKING IN YOUR TEENAGER John Rosemond (KRL)

FROM CHOCOLATE TO MORPHINE: EVERYTHING YOU NEED TO KNOW ABOUT MIND ALTERING DRUGS Rosen and Weil

DON’T LET YOUR KIDS KILL YOU: A GUIDE FOR PARENTS OF DRUG AND ALCOHOL ADDICTED CHILDREN Charles Rubin (KRL)

THE INSIDE STORY ON TEEN GIRLS: EXPERTS ANSWER PARENTS’ QUESTIONS Alice Rubenstein (Ed) American Psychological Association (KRL)

LOVE AND ANGER: THE PARENTAL DILEMMA Samalin

SAYING NO IS NOT ENOUGH: HELPING YOUR KIDS MAKE WISE DECISIONS ABOUT ALCOHOL, TOBACCO, AND OTHER DRUGS Robert Schwebel (KRL)

EPIDEMIC Robert Shaw, MD (EHB)

PARENTING FROM THE INSIDE OUT: HOW A DEEPER SELF UNDERSTANDING CAN HELP YOU RAISE CHILDREN WHO THRIVE Dan Siegel MD and Mary Hartzell M.Ed 2003

THE ODD GIRL OUT: THE HIDDEN AGRESSION IN GIRLS Rachel Simmons (EHB) 2002

THE ODD GIRL SPEAKS OUT: GIRLS WRITE ABOUT BULLIES, CLIQUES, POPULARITY AND JEALOUSY Rachel Simmons 2004

GIRL IN THE MIRROR: MOTHERS AND DAUGHTERS IN THE YEARS OF ADOLESCENCE Nancy L. Snyderman, MD and Peg Streep 2002

THE OTHER PARENT James Steyer (EHB)

THE PRIMAL TEEN: WHAT THE NEW DISCOVERIES ABOUT THE TEENAGE BRAIN TELL US ABOUT OUR KIDS. Barbara Strauch

A GIRL’S GUIDE TO TAKING OVER THE WORLD: WRITINGS FROM THE GIRL ZINE REVOLUTION Tristan Taormino (Ed.)

FINDING YOUR WAY HOME Susan Terkel

STOPPING AT EVERY LEMONADE STAND James Vollbracht

OUR DRINK:DETOXING THE PERFECT AMERICAN FAMILY Chris and Toren Volkmann

WHY DO THEY GET THAT WAY? A SURVIVAL GUIDE TO THE ADOLESCENT BRAIN FOR YOU AND YOUR KID David Walsh and Nat Bennett 2004

SPIRIT WALKER Hand Wesselman

A WOMAN’S WORTH Maryanne Williamson

QUEEN BEES AND WANNABEES: A PARENT’S GUIDE TO HELPING YOUR DAUGHTER SURVIVE CLIQUES, GOSSIP, BOYFRIENDS AND OTHER REALITIES OF ADOLESCENCE Rosalind Wiseman (KRL)

GET OUT OF MY LIFE, BUT FIRST CAN YOU TAKE CHERYL AND ME TO THE MALL? Anthony E. Wolf

SMASHED Koren Zailckas 2005

PRACTICES OF DIALOGUE, LISTENING AND PRESENCE: THE WAY OF COUNCIL Zimmerman and Coyle

Just Know Reading List

Creation of a caring community or analysis of how communities function

HOME TOWN Tracy Kidder

STOPPING AT EVERY LEMONADE STAND James Vollbracht

HOW RACE IS LIVED IN AMERICA

New York Times (includes a section on Bainbridge)

Considering how the media, the pace of our live, and the interaction of family members effect the quality of our lives and the lives of our children:

THE OTHER PARENT James Steyer

TAKE BACK YOUR TIME John De Graaf

REVIVING OPHELIA Mary Pipher

THE SHELTER OF EACH OTHER Mary Pipher

Books offer specific parenting advice

101 WAYS TO BE A TERRIFIC SPORTS PARENT Dr. Joel Fish

EPIDEMIC Robert Shaw, MD

PARENTING FROM THE INSIDE OUT Daniel Siegel

YES YOUR TEEN IS CRAZY Michael Bradley

GET OUT OF MY LIFE BUT FIRST COULD YOU DRIVE ME AND CHERYL TO THE MALL Wolf

ADOLESCENCE ISN’T TERMINAL Kevin Leman

NO MORE PUSH PARENTING Elisabeth Guthrie and Kathie Matthews

Investigating the physical, social, and cultural lives of teens:

THE PRIMAL TEEN Barbara Strauch

THE ODD GIRL OUT Rachel Simmons

A TRIBE APART Patricia Hersch

SEX LIVES OF TEENAGERS Lynn Ponton

NOT MUCH, JUST CHILLIN’ Linda Perlstein

Books about drug and alcohol use

MY DRINK Toren….dkdkfjlsfajf

TEENS UNDER THE INFLUENCE Katherine Ketchan and Nicholas Pace

FROM CHOCOLATE TO MORPHINE Andrew Weil and Winifred Rosen

Books concerning depression

ADOLESCENT DEPRESSION Francis Mark Mondimore

NIGHT FALLS FAST Kay Redfield Jamison

MORE THAN MOODY Harold Koplewicz

Books focusing on educational issues

A MIND AT A TIME Mel Levine

HELPING KIDS COPE Nancy Gill

CHILDHOOD BULLYING, TEASING, & VIOLENCE Dorothy Ross

If you go to one of these books in the KRL Kit Kat Catalog, and click on "more on this topic", you get around 51 hits. So, these are just a few of the available books.